I battle with this everyday. I fight with this reality everyday. My conclusion? It is better to have loved and lost. I have done this and I am a better woman because I know how to love through loss.
Definitely better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I've never been in love and it sucks. I really want to be and I think that it would be better to have that little time and to lose it than be like this for the rest of my life!
I suppose if the experience leaves you a better person somehow... But it can't feel good to have loved, lost, and then know exactly what you're missing. Can it?
I have no idea! On the one hand, to love and be loved, is an incredible gift. But when you fall in love with the wrong person, it is can so painful. I guess it's all good because it's part of life, and God allowed it in your life. So maybe Tennyson is right.
Which is better? Who knows... What I CAN say that I don't regret loving any of the people I've loved. I regret many of the mistakes I've made, I regret not leaving certain relationships earlier... but in the end I don't regret loving. Not one bit.
I agree, despite the hurt of losing, the exhilaration of loving--not necessarily of being loved--has made me feel like I really am alive. I'd rather know what kind of emotion I am capable of, good and bad, than live in some middle-of-the-road no-man's land.
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I battle with this everyday. I fight with this reality everyday. My conclusion? It is better to have loved and lost. I have done this and I am a better woman because I know how to love through loss.
Definitely better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I've never been in love and it sucks. I really want to be and I think that it would be better to have that little time and to lose it than be like this for the rest of my life!
Yes. But I'm not sure I'd like to hear that if I had lost!
I suppose if the experience leaves you a better person somehow... But it can't feel good to have loved, lost, and then know exactly what you're missing. Can it?
I have no idea! On the one hand, to love and be loved, is an incredible gift. But when you fall in love with the wrong person, it is can so painful. I guess it's all good because it's part of life, and God allowed it in your life. So maybe Tennyson is right.
Agree. :) After time and the hurt has passed. :)
Which is better? Who knows... What I CAN say that I don't regret loving any of the people I've loved. I regret many of the mistakes I've made, I regret not leaving certain relationships earlier... but in the end I don't regret loving. Not one bit.
i'd say more agree than disagree. i think we tend to learn more from our mistakes than our successes.
I'm probably a stronger person for loving those I've lost. I'm not sure I like it, but it does make me stronger.
It depends on when you ask :) I suppose it is, overall, but it sure doesn't feel like it sometimes :)
Ugh, been thinking about this a lot lately given a recent break up and re-watching of Shakespeare in Love. Don't have an answer :-(
I agree! Of course eventually I want to win. :)
I agree, despite the hurt of losing, the exhilaration of loving--not necessarily of being loved--has made me feel like I really am alive. I'd rather know what kind of emotion I am capable of, good and bad, than live in some middle-of-the-road no-man's land.
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