I didn't find the quintessential book on making it work "even after," but I found this article in the NYT implying that lots of couples do.
Not sure if this is happy news, or sad? I wish the article went deeper, explaining not just WHY betrayed spouses stay (children, finances, complications in disentangling lives) but HOW.
I'm 100% for making marriages work whenever possible. But I'd love to hear from the trenches how people are doing it.
(Random passing thought: has anyone read Elizabeth Edward's latest book? Does she talk about this?)
Thanks for your help with this, everyone! And to pay you back for all your recommendations...
I'm speed reading EAST OF EDEN by John Steinbeck for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. It's one of the best novels I've ever read (and one of the few about which I've ever agreed with Oprah). AND it has the added bonus of being a classic, so you can feel proud of yourself for reading it ;)