Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Risk or Opportunity?

Jennifer Love Hewitt has a book out about love??? I'm simultaneously fascinated and horrified. Not in the usual, "Who does she think she is?" way that gets tossed out at authors who don't have their entire lives sewn up into a perfect package (JLH is already getting some of this...I heard about her book in a news alert about how her boyfriend broke up with her right as her book launched...as she put it, "Awkward!"). But because it seems like a HUGE risk for her.

She's only thirty-one. Which probably feels old to her in our current society (and multiply that pressure by 1000 when you're an actress). But she has a lot of life ahead of her...and one hopes at least one really great, long-lasting relationship.

As tempting as it is to go public with our mistakes and heartbreaks, I'm really glad my first attempt at a book--one remarkably like JLH's (including the boyfriend who broke up with me after I finished writing about our great love)--was never published. Because by the time I met Steve, I was a different person. He knows my past...as does anyone who read He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not (my next attempt). But I think there's something to be said for how Steve had a chance to know me as a person first. Writing things down captures them (and to some extent you) in a specific time, place, and mindset. Which is part of both the beauty of non-fiction...and the risk.

What do you think: mistake or opportunity? Given the chance, would you publish your ups & downs with love?

3 comments:

Elizabeth@LongToLove said...

I saw JLH on The View yesterday promoting her book. My, she's come far from her days on Kids Incorporated!

On the one hand, I admire that she's willing to put her starlet status on the line to talk about her dating disasters (or use it to promote them), but I think until the happily ever after has arrived, it's a big risk to put yourself out there without knowing how it's going to end.

Marie said...

Oh no way! I'm just glad I got to walk away from those years- the last thing I'd want to do is write about it. :)

Stacy said...

I like to hide behind fiction. :)

I would love to have coffee with JLH and talk about men. With her slightly ditzy persona, it seems like she'd be the one to say things other women think but don't actually say.

But I wouldn't ever want love advice from her.